July 2015, Serena Williams won her 6th Wimbledon singles title. I love what she said about quitting in an interview in Melbourne, Australia. She told the reporter,
“I have a stopping issue,” I don’t have a quit button. You just can’t press control-alt-quit with me. The window will stay open. I do not know when to quit.”
I love her attitude about quitting, Serena perseveres and she continues to prevail over and over and over again! What about YOU; Are you a quitter? Are you a whiner? Are you not giving it 110%?
Here are 6 tips to help you get on track to NOT being a quitter.
- Know your WHY? Your WHY must be big enough to keep you charged. it must be succinct, clear and connected to your soul. So when you think about quitting, think about WHY you started. I believe that Serena had a desire to be the best tennis player ever and in order to be the best ever quitting is not an option.
- View challenges. Understand that there will be hills and valleys on the way to our dreams. Serena has had injuries, she’s had the flu but she didn’t quit. Every difficulty is an opportunity in disguise. Challenges are designed to help us grow to the next level. Remember, shifts happen! Don’t get lost in the shift…
- Change your vocabulary. Our words are powerful! Speak those things as though they already are is what I learned at an early age. I tell my students and my clients to lose the loser talk and the passive language like, “I’m gonna try, I might, maybe”. Follow Nike and Just DO IT or in this instance SAY IT!
- Nurture your spirit. Just like plants need water and sunlight. So does your spirit when you are working toward your dream. You are going to learn a lot about the people around you but most importantly you will learn a lot about yourself. Music, affirmations, mediation and journaling are a great way to nurture your spirit.
- Develop your support team. This is vital. Many of us fall short on our goals because there isn’t anyone there to give us a swift kick in the butt when we need it. We choose people who tell us what we want to hear instead of what we need to hear OR create hostile environments that prevent people from holding us accountable (stop being a bully).When you are stuck in your head, controlled by woulda, coulda, shoulda, talking to the wrong people, lying to yourself, or just stop trying. You need a team of like-minded people, you need a coach like me, who will listen, get your refocused, and back in the game. You also need to understand that many times you are going to have to develop a new support team. When you take on something great, unfortunately the people closest to us do not always have the capacity to support us and it’s ok. The dream was given to you not them.
- Consistency is key. Be relentless, or as Orison Swett Marden describes in his book, the Iron Will, you must be psychotically persistent. Make a commitment to not quit no matter how hard it gets, no matter how many disappointments you face, no matter how many times you hear no. As the Japanese Proverb says, Fall down seven times. Get up eight.
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Taunya A. Lowe, Ph.D. is the CEO of The Resurgent Group of Metro Atlanta, LLC, a human services and leadership development consulting firm located in Lawrenceville, GA. Dr. Lowe is an author, speaker, trainer, consultant, and professor. Trained by John Maxwell and his team, she is a skilled change agent with a focus on developing people and organizations. She enjoys combining her many talents with her photography and writing to motivate, inspire and lead people and organizations toward change. Learn more about Dr. Lowe, by visiting www.drtaunyalowe.com or email her firstname.lastname@example.org or call her office (855) 873-4445.