Most people have dealt with some sort of negativity their entire lives. Negative experiences start during childhood and continue throughout our adult lives and this can be a huge issue if you are a manager or in leadership. Although this is a normal part of life that we all deal with. Too often though, our thoughts become negative as well. Even more troubling is when we start talking to ourselves in a negative manner. This negative self-talk is one of the most limiting behaviors a leader can deal with.
Use these tips to help overcome it.
1. Distinguish between negative thoughts and critical thinking.
We need to have a certain amount of self-critique, otherwise we will never
believe that we are doing something wrong. However, you need to recognize
when that critiquing becomes negative self-talk. When you can distinguish
between these, it will lead to a better situation.
2. Accept failure.
If you like to beat yourself up whenever you fail, you are in for a steep road
ahead. You will fail, and you will do it many times in your life. Embrace this as a
gift rather than a burden. Try to view failure as more of a lesson learned. Don’t
tell yourself you are a failure, tell yourself that you just learned what doesn’t
3. Repeat daily affirmations.
You should look for affirmations that fit your current life situation. Use these as
often as you can. Try repeating these affirmations every day. You should even
write them out on a piece of paper and keep them close. The idea here is to
program your mind for positive thinking. The more you keep at it, the more
natural it will become. Ideally, those negative things you tell yourself, will
eventually be taken over by your positive affirmations.
4. Limit your exposure to people who are negative.
These people thrive on negativity and enjoy dragging others down with them.
If you cannot avoid them altogether, spend as little time with them as possible.
You already struggle with negative self-talk, so you don’t need them adding
more negativity. If you spend more time with positive people that build you
up, your negative self-talk will naturally reduce.
5. Learn to see the good in people.
If you are always thinking negatively of others, it makes sense that you will
more naturally think negatively about yourself. Being more open minded
towards others will help you be more accepting of your own flaws as well.
6. Negative thinking is a choice.
Even though you have been bombarded with it since you were a child, thinking
negatively is something you choose to do. Conversely, positive thinking is just
as much a choice as negative thinking. Choose positive thinking. This isn’t an
easy quick fix, it takes a lot of work and practice. …so start now!
7. Strengthen your self-belief.
Negative thinking often occurs due to a lack of belief in yourself. When you
strengthen your confidence, it will help you get through those times that bring