The Law of Reflections says…. “learning to pause allows growth to catch up with you.” Reflection, (pausing) turns experience into insight. We all need a time and place to reflect (pause). For years, I have taken a trip for my birthday. I usually take it alone and enjoy myself a great deal. It is known as Vacalabration, celebrating my birthday while on vacation. This is my time to PAUSE, and REFLECT.
I use this time to reflect on the past year, challenges, successes, and next steps. I begin to strategically plan the next 12 months in increments of quarters, all while enjoying the sights and sounds of the roaring ocean, the peaks of the mountains or the bight lights of Vegas. It is a cathartic and peaceful process. This time away from the hustle and bustle allows me to rest and rejuvenate my mind, body and spirit while putting me in a space that is ripe for cleansing and creating. This is my intentional time to pause and think about how to enrich and expand the vision, the mission. It is also a time to honestly assess situations and make the tough decisions without outside influence.
Leaders must take time to recalibrate and in order to receive the benefits of the process, we must power all the way down. This means disconnecting from the outside, and reconnecting with the inside. Christian Simpson says, “if we fail to go within we will go without”. Dale C. Bronner recommends when it comes to implementing the law of reflection; “learn to divert daily! Find something to give you a daily diversion. Divert Daily, Divert Daily; Withdraw weekly- find a day to not do any work one day a week to have some down time, and Abandon annually! Take off a week! It will help you to grow in a great way.” It sounds so simple, but so many people struggle with this process.
We must understand that there is power in the pause if it’s done correctly. Here are 5 tips to get you started;
1. Commit to making reflection a part of your daily routine. In order to truly embrace this law practice reflection daily put it on your schedule. Make it a part of your daily agenda and it will become a part of your life.
2. Designate a place. In order to truly reflect you will need to eliminate all distractions: work, phone, co-workers, children, spouse. This is your time to become a better you. Your time to make adjustments to your plan and reflect on your decisions. Protect it.
3. Channel your thoughts; don’t waste your reflection time on pettiness and things that don’t matter. Reflect on your actions, your decisions, your strategies, your words, your next steps.
4. Go within. So many people are afraid of their own thoughts so they consume themselves with games, internet, ratchet tv, and meaningless conversation. Don’t be afraid to go within. Deep within and ask yourself the hard questions. That is where you will find the answers. Every answer to every situation is already within us.
5. Peter F. Drucker says, “Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.” Reflection puts you in the space to go, act, move, implement.
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Taunya A. Lowe, Ph.D. is the CEO of a human services and leadership development consulting firm located in Lawrenceville, GA. Dr. Lowe is a speaker, trainer, strategist, success coach, professor, entrepreneur; and the Siegel Institute for Ethics, Leadership and Character 2013 Phenomenal Woman. Trained by John Maxwell and his team, she is a skilled change agent with a focus on developing people and organizations. She enjoys combining her photography and writing to motivate, inspire and lead people and organizations toward transformation. Contact Dr. Lowe, by visiting www.drtaunyalowe.com or email her firstname.lastname@example.org or call her office (855) 873-4445.